You can use getChildByName if you are using containers (StackPanel for eg). However, it will only look for direct children of the container. getDescendantsToRef will let you query for children by taking into account all the descendants.
I think the easiest way is simply to store somewhere (in a map, for eg) your “pointers” to be able to access them later on.
Thanks a lot for the very prompt answer. Yes I’ve stored them in a custom map as a workaround. getChildByName doesn’t really help as if I can get the parent, I can as well get the child